Kevin and I had an interesting discussion the other weekend.
Discussion....well, OK, a nasty fight at 12:30am.
Truly a nothing fight. A fight not about any major topic. A fight because we are worn out, overextended, exhausted. We haven't seen much of each other. Between the opera and the theater, Kevin's time is in high demand.
We would both really like a break. We would both like lots of attention, sympathy, and patience.
Neither of us have much to give back.
So we have a fight at 12:30am.
We handled it alright. Nothing truly gets resolved, but we each say our bit and try real hard to be kind. We are mostly successful.
Kevin falls asleep soon after. Snoring. I fume for an hour longer, thinking that if I smothered him with a pillow, he would stop snoring and I could sleep. This feels like a good solution.
Monday morning, Kevin drives me to work for a meeting. Then he picks me up. Then we go out to lunch. We reconnect. We are able to talk about how we really were feeling Saturday night (exhausted, overextended, worn out). We are able to give all those things we wanted.
And we think, we're doing pretty damn good at this marriage thing. And we are happy.
4 comments:
Anything worth having is worth working hard to have...a happy marriage is hard work and oh so worth it. (Talk about convoluted reasoning!) I'm so glad you're happy. AJ
:) we love you guys
I was so happy to hear about Patrick! (not my patrick, your patrick) I'll be sure to tell him that you're naming the baby after him. I'm sure he'll be fantastically pleased. It's been a while since we talked. I think Blue C Sushi when Camille was in town. If you ever have a chance to recuperate from the exhaustion (despite the pregnancy) I'd love to get together with you again. Name your craving and we'll go do that. =) Take care. Paige
There's something nice about a good marriage. When you know in the back of your head that, even when it sucks in the moment ... it will be good in the long run.
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